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Blake's avatar

Love this. "Remember when" is the lowest form of conversation." Nostalgia is totally overrated. Well expressed and beautifully read.

Tamir Yardenne's avatar

Nostalgia is overrated? But why do so many of use do it and hold it with such reverie?

Franco Amati's avatar

it's a good point. This is something I've thought about quite a bit. It's a very human thing to want to be tied to the past, and have continuity of self over the years. We want to believe that the parson who existed years ago is still here, even if there's an abundance of evidence to the contrary. I believe it has to do with wanting to maintain a coherent sense of self.

Franco Amati's avatar

thank you Blake. Invoking the great Tony Soprano. Couldn't have said it better. Cheers.

T.K.talbert's avatar

Solid writing. I really liked this one.

I'd kill to read a short story by you.

Franco Amati's avatar

thank you T.K! Fortunately you don't have to kill.

I've published dozens of stories in various magazines (online and in-print) they just have not been given the substack treatment yet. You can find them on my website: francoamatiwrites.com

maybe in the future I'll narrate or do commentaries for some of them, we'll see...

I appreciate you, brother!

T.K.talbert's avatar

Sigh... another day without blood on my hands.

Thanks for the links, chief. Looking forward to taking a gander.

Franco Amati's avatar

haha, you got it.

Ria Galliano's avatar

Sooo good. I had this same thought. For years now I've been wondering 'when are things going to go back to normal' but I guess I have to realize that normal is relative and things will never go back to that illusion of what I thought life was supposed to be. Needed to read this Franco. Thank you,

Franco Amati's avatar

thank you Ria, I can totally relate. you're right, it's mostly an illusion to think that way

Wendy Parciak's avatar

I seem to spend a lot of time pining for an Anne-of-Green-Gables sort of time that I never even lived! Of course, I'm sure it wouldn't have been so great if I had actually lived then, anyway.

Franco Amati's avatar

exactly, we all aspire for something that's mostly a fiction. So live on, and make the most of the chaos :D

Steffany Ritchie's avatar

Wallowing in the past at this time of year is a mixed bag for sure, but it almost feels like we are supposed to with so much music and repeated surroundings and rituals. We can always make new memories, thanks for the uplifting ending!

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you Steffany. :)

Violet Duchamps's avatar

I really enjoyed reading this and it feels like there is some low sentiment circulating at this time of year and this feels real to me.

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you Violet!

Maria Matheou's avatar

We’re all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars - Oscar Wilde

Franco Amati's avatar

Well said ! Love that quote. Thanks, Maria. Great to connect with you. Looking forward to reading more of your work.

Maria Matheou's avatar

Thank you for finding me. Excited to read more :)

Manuel A Garcia's avatar

Thank you, Franco.

In eternity I rest with two doors

One to myths and illusions of the past

One to future anxieties and dreams

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you Manuel!

K.C. Knouse's avatar

You always end on a positive, or at least, a hopeful note, Franco. I appreciate that. For me, childhood was filled with uncertainty. I much prefer the independence of adulthood.

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you K.C. I try keep things at least a little hopeful. Especially in uncertain times.

Nevena Pascaleva's avatar

Maybe all we are trying to achieve in our lives is going back to our childhood….

Franco Amati's avatar

sometimes it does feel that way!

Giulietta Passarelli's avatar

Very cool and intuitive and uplifting Thanks, Franco

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you ❤️

Esther Stanway-Williams's avatar

It’s the trying that keeps us alive 💕 I agree…looking back is so often rose-tinted nostalgia. Being excited by what’s ahead is where we get our fuel to keep going.

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you Esther ♥️

Shannon Wölfl's avatar

I so needed to read this. Great piece, I'm still wrangling with my past self and life. Even looking at it through a different lens is chicken soup for the soul. Always a great perspective, Franco. 😊

Franco Amati's avatar

thanks Shannon! I'm glad this hit you at the right time <3

Crapp's avatar

If there’s lower to go for us in general, I’m not sure I’ve got the stomach for it….

Franco Amati's avatar

Same lol. Thanks, Crapp. We shall see

BIG WILD MIND MACHINE's avatar

Yes.

The spirit of regularity was always a costume,

but it looked good on us while it lasted.

Childhood was the one time

we didn’t know the war had already started.

You say the magic escaped.

I say the magic was never meant to be caged.

It rides the muck.

It grows teeth in the grind.

It sings through cracked windows at midnight

when you think you’re too tired to answer.

The secret fire doesn’t glow for comfort.

It glows because motion is holy

and inertia is a lie.

You’re right to look back.

Just don’t stare.

Memory is a good mirror

but a bad compass.

What you’re chasing isn’t nostalgia.

It’s the velocity of being undefeated

by your own numbness.

So write with your bruises.

Laugh like the wind owes you rent.

And don’t wait to feel ready—

just move toward the place

where your pulse gets weird

and your breath forgets to be small.

You’re not broken.

You’re just molting.

Up is real.

Keep climbing.

Franco Amati's avatar

Thank you 😊

BIG WILD MIND MACHINE's avatar

Yes.

The spirit of regularity was always a costume,

but it looked good on us while it lasted.

Childhood was the one time

we didn’t know the war had already started.

You say the magic escaped.

I say the magic was never meant to be caged.

It rides the muck.

It grows teeth in the grind.

It sings through cracked windows at midnight

when you think you’re too tired to answer.

The secret fire doesn’t glow for comfort.

It glows because motion is holy

and inertia is a lie.

You’re right to look back.

Just don’t stare.

Memory is a good mirror

but a bad compass.

What you’re chasing isn’t nostalgia.

It’s the velocity of being undefeated

by your own numbness.

So write with your bruises.

Laugh like the wind owes you rent.

And don’t wait to feel ready—

just move toward the place

where your pulse gets weird

and your breath forgets to be small.

You’re not broken.

You’re just molting.

Up is real.

Keep climbing.

Franco Amati's avatar

Love this! Thank you 🙏